Sunday 16 November 2014

Should 'hate' be banned?



Someone told me the other day that they have banned the word 'hate' in their household - and what did I think?

This caught me my surprise, and I had to think on my feet, but I ended up saying 'hate' is just a word, it describes a feeling, and all feelings are ok.  Its hard enough for children to talk about their feelings, without having to navigate the parental  equivalent of political correctness. Which, confusingly,  I generally believe to be a good thing, and now there is proof that it works, as Oliver Burkeman reports.

Its actions, not feelings, we should be worried about. But is saying 'I hate you' an aggressive act? Is 'hate' even a feeling, or a thought? And can I express how I feel, when I am angry, without being verbally aggressive? Non-violent language tries to address this, but it can be challenging at times. I had another incident like this this morning, of getting 'lost' on my bike...no bike throwing occurred this time, but S and I lost each other again, and I had no phone, keys or money, again.


Meanwhile, we are in the middle of enjoying a fantastic British Film Festival, at the Palace cinemas, this weekend: we saw Testament of Youth last night, in which Vera Brittain, who became a pacifist, bravely speaks out against post-war sanctions on Germany, after losing her fiance, her brother, and other friends in the First World War. The more things change, the more they seem to stay the same.

Other festival films we have seen include Jimmy's Hall, Mr Turner and the Love Punch, with one more today, What we did on our Holidays. I am also keen on the Imitation game, but may be running out of cinema stamina, although being indoors and eating ice cream seems very sensible in this heat. Record* high temperatures of 40 degrees and above are anticipated today.

 


Brisbane is currently hosting the G20. Twenty five years after the collapse of the Berlin Wall,  Brisbane is like a police state this weekend. with wall to wall cops and prison vans. The city is otherwise deserted.

The highlight of G20 yesterday was Obama's speech at University of Queensland, which clearly called for action on climate change, amongst other things. Tony Abbott's insistence that 'Coal is good for humanity' is seriously being challenged.  Finally. By an American president. Who would have thought?

more later

*for November - its still only Spring...

Sunday 2 November 2014

What I love (and hate) about Australia - 2 lists, 25 years today!

We arrived in Oz 25 years ago today. So here are 25 things I love about Australia, not in any particular order:

  1. Frequent sunshine
  2. The great outdoors - spectacular scenery and a healthy lifestyle
  3. Amazing produce, and excellent food in (some) restaurants and cafes
  4. Space - room to breathe
  5. Wildlife
  6. The beach
  7. Plants, from native orchids to flowering trees, like poincianas, jacarandas and frangipanis
  8.  Shaun Micallef's Mad as Hell
  9. Matthew Evans' Gourmet Farmer
  10. Gardening Australia
  11. Mangoes, lychees and other tropical fruit (but especially mangoes)
  12. Rainforest
  13. Tasmania 
  14. Proximity to New Zealand and Asia
  15. Denise Scott, Wendy Harmer, Julia Zemiro and Judith Lucy - and all the other women who make me laugh
  16. No longer having to pay a mortgage in London
  17. Really good coffee
  18. Priscilla, Queen of the Desert
  19. Birth Centre at the Royal Brisbane and Women's Hospital, where J was born
  20. Aboriginal art and culture, and Aboriginal people's relationship to the land
  21. Laughing Lotus Yoga - simultaneously nurturing and challenging classes
  22. Food Connect - veggie box scheme sustainably connecting farmers and consumers
  23. Higher Education - UQ for establishing an art therapy program, and QUT, for teaching me to be a social worker, when it was still affordable.
  24. Friends, new and old
  25. Family - both near and far
 

And then there is the not so good...
  1.  Immigration policies - see #4 above - we have lots of room to spare
  2. (Lack of) climate change policies in current government
  3. Car culture, poor public transport
  4. Hideous pubs
  5. High levels of domestic violence
  6. 'Casual' racism and sexism
  7. Nowhere near Europe or UK
  8. Dependency on coal mining and other fossil fuel
  9. Very hot days
  10. Commercial TV, truly trashy
more later